It Seems We All Need Anger Management
Posted: September 16, 2009, 07:26 PM by Leslie Grossman
After writing in my blog about Serena's on-court outburst and post-apology, it seemed everything I read is about yet another celeb or high-profile person flaring up with anger! We all know it started with Joe Wilson on the floor of the house during the President's speech. Then it was Kanye West grabbing the mike and rudely interrupting Taylor Swift's acceptance speech claiming Beyonce deserved to win more. Of course, the media was abuzz about Jon saying he despised Kate, mother of his eight kids. And then to top it all off my beloved Yankees got in a physical fight on the field at the new Yankee Stadium with the Blue Jays. Can't we all just get along? Everyone seems to be on a short fuse. Is it because of the economy stupid? Is it because most of the country didn't get a full summer vacation (too much rain)? What's your theory? And what's the solution? Do we need to go back to first grade and learn how to behave? And as I've said before, successful leaders channel their anger into passion and change the world! Maybe we don't need anger management afterall. We just need to pause and think before we react! I would love to hear your thoughts on this!.....Leslie Grossman, cofounder, Women's Leadership Exchange
Reader Comments
Posted: April 9, 2010, 05:49 PM by anger management classes los angeles
oops wasnt finished! If we say everyone needs it, then everyone needs management for other emotions too! Like happyness etc etc. So sill!
-Kelly
http://www.valleyangermanagement.com/
Posted: April 9, 2010, 05:48 PM by anger management classes los angeles
Everyone has the emotion anger! Whether or not we can control it determines if we need anger management! Sure some people may need it but not everyone!
Posted: September 29, 2009, 09:42 AM by V
People no longer learn as children how to handle negative emotions like anger and jealousy. As adults, they have the same temper tantrums they had as children, but in many cases those tantrums are televised to the world. People also grow up believing that they are entitled to have everything their way all the time, and when they don't get their way, they have the tantrum.
We also seem to believe that acting a like a jerk is OK, as long as you apologize for it. There's a point at which apologies don't make it OK.
It took less leadership for Serena to apologize than it would have taken to control her emotions in the first place.
Posted: September 25, 2009, 07:36 AM by Lionel
I totally agree...we dont need anger management....we need to convert our anger into passion and creativity. When i am angry...the first thing i do is "Dont react"...just pause....wait and then use the inertia generated to postiive vibes.
Posted: September 17, 2009, 12:17 PM by Barbara in DFW
It comes back to being part of something bigger than ourselves as opposed to our immature individualism created by the "abandoned, fatherless and aborted". How can we expect people to act maturely when those raised in the authoritarian households have in rebellion become so lax in creating balance using appropriate discipline and love. The preachers, Godly men and women, who follow Christ are speaking about this . . . Perfect Love casts out WRATH. The only way to address this is with perfect love and yes that does require Godly discipline. Life is not as stressful as we make it out to be when we rely on the One who provides all good things! be blessed and be a blessing to who you encounter, it just may be Jesus.
Posted: September 17, 2009, 10:23 AM by HeelShields
I totally agree. There must be something involved with watching all of the bad behavior on 'reality TV' that is helping to spawn real inappropriate behavior. I have stopped watching shows that spew hatred and violence. I guess I now need to also write letters to elected officials and sponsors to also let them know that viewing of the inappropriate behaviors is not supported.
Posted: September 17, 2009, 09:16 AM by Deanna
Leslie,
You bring up an important point. Some areas of society seem to have come to a place of gross incivility. In response to your questions, in my personal experience one incident of bad behavior propagates another, even if seemingly unrelated. To stop these continued outbursts there must be immediate and appropriate response to such behavior. In the examples mentioned, Wilson acted outside the decorum guidelines and was quickly shunned and publically punished. It is clear Kanye has been "right-sized" under similar circumstances within his own industry as Wilson. Jon needs better handlers, without immediate "class" class he will crash and burn out soon enough. The Yankees team members’ busting it up on the field is inexcusable ~ especially when it is considered that they have a moral obligation while on the field to produce a "family event". I understand there are some suspensions and fines forthcoming. These however have become common place and frankly do not appear to have any teeth. Stronger penalties must be inacted to deter this behavior, and quickly.
Closer to home, I have not personally witness this type of bad behavior at work, with friends or family. I think there is something about being bad while the cameras are rolling. Bad behavior is begging for discipline. It is not entertainment. I think we can agree, all these men deserve their punishments and more. Society will need to require such then the costs will get steeper aka have "teeth". That means writing elected officials and let them know that their support (or ignoring) of bad behavior will cost a vote, for celebs and sport figures it’s a hit to their pocket book that hurts. Vote with your dollars. But as consumers we have the power of consumption, or not. That is how we contribute to the stop of these public spectacles.
Best regards, D
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